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At the wonderful suggestions of friends, I want to share a little bit about this site.
I started in the event planning business almost 4 years ago and fell in love with it right away. I started to gain all this knowledge of how to work with a budget, how to deal with difficult vendors and clients, what were great venues and what weren't and so much more! When my friends starting getting married and I thought I have to share this information - and so it began.
To all the Brides-To-Be, Grooms-To-Be and everyone involved, welcome to My Wedding-To-Be! Please feel free to ask me questions, tell everyone stories and even answer questions and make suggestions of the good, the bad and the ugly. Also know that it doesn’t have to be all about weddings – it could be about any event planning!
Congratulations and Have Fun!
Friday, August 15, 2008
Will You? I Do. (Q/A)
I Do. (A)
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Wednesday, July 16, 2008
The Initial Change ...
How to change your Maiden Name!
With every state and county there are slightly different rules to changing your last name once you’re married. If of course you choose to change it at all! The general idea is here though … from hyphenating to changing, it’s all the same! There are also some tips about the initial change
Before the “I Do”
1. Tell bridesmaids, family, guests – anyone who will listen – you’re changing your name. You will have guests who want to monogram towels for you and you want to make sure those gifts have the correct initials.
2. When making honeymoon reservations, plane reservations etc. PLEASE make them with your MAIDEN NAME! I repeat, your MAIDEN NAME! It takes time to change your name and you won't have a passport or drivers license in your new name – you would not want to spend your honeymoon in the airport trying to convince security it’s you.
3. As a courtesy, tell your job you will be changing names. This way if they order new business cards, change paycheck companies etc. they will know and be prepared with the correct information.
After the “I Do”
1. You’ll want the government to know who you are so you’ll have to get a new social security card. Once you get your marriage license (which usually takes a couple of weeks to arrive in the mail), download a form from the Social Security website. Then take that completed form, the marriage license and your ID to your local social security office to get a new card. (If you've gotten creative with your last name, you may have an additional form to fill out)
2. Now that the IRS can find you during tax season, the police are the next guests on your list. Your driver’s license is easy; just take your marriage certificate to the DMV and they will change it up. Some state's DMV may require your new social security card but most will accept only the marriage certificate. Just contact your local DMV to be sure before you head over.
3. Now… just the basics at work. You’ll have to take your new social security card to your Human Resource department at the office and change your financial information. Even your taxes will change and you want to be sure to get credited correctly!
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For everyone else, including bank, insurance policies, credit cards, utilities, creditors, and membership organizations, type up a letter with all of your information on it, including name, address, new name, account number, and possibly your social security number, and include a copy of your marriage license. There should be no charges to change your name. Also, be sure to order new checks, new credit cards … new stationary.
After all the changes have been legally made, all you have to do it get used to the sound of someone calling you by a different name! It will sound funny at first, but as you start using your new last name, everyone else will catch on. Don't be afraid to courteously correct people when they erroneously use your maiden name.
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Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Happy Summer!
It's about DAMN time I get back on this thing! I have been so busy with work and my own wedding planning I haven't had time to spread the love.
Just wanted to let you know, I am back. It may take a while to kick-start me up again but there will be posts. Promise.
Thanks everyone, hope you're having a great summer so far!
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Friday, February 29, 2008
Groom-To-Be 101
1. Free Your Mind (and the rest will follow)
This is just as much your wedding as is it your bride's. Let your opinion on reception location, church, color scheme, food & music be known. It is important that this day be something that represents the two of you as a couple. She will appreciate the fact that you are getting involved. Not to mention, when Aunt Clarice asks about the planning you will have an answer... she will also be thankful to you taking some of the questions.
2. Relish Your Registry
3. Don't Be a Pushover -- Really
4. Give Her a Break
You need to make sure she doesn't have an ulcer by the time she walks down the aisle. Give her a night to relax and cook her dinner, do the dishes, rent her favorite movie (yes, even a chick flick), and remind her why wedding planning is worth the stress. Also, along the way, make sure you tell her what a great job she's doing.
5. Don’t Add Insult
6. Arrange the Attire
Send out detailed emails to all your groomsmen filling them in on the info for the formal wear -- let them know when and where to get fitted for their tuxes, and remind them to return the suits the day after the wedding to avoid annoying late fees. Copy your fiance on the emails to prove that you've got everything under control. It may also be helpful to ask the guys to reply to all if they have a questions. This way you could avoid answering the same question 100 times and if you're not sure maybe your girl can help you out.
7. Manage Your Men
8. Get Sentimental
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Thursday, February 21, 2008
Groom Tested, Bride Approved.
Think.
Surf's Up, Bro
White-Water Rafting
Day of Thunder
Deep Sea Fishing
Skydiving

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Saturday, February 16, 2008
Bridesmaid 101... part 1
Lean on Me.
As a bridesmaid, you are the one the bride will turn to when stressed or frazzled from the details of planning. Most importantly, you just want to help in any way. Let the bride know you want to do whatever you can to help her, from picking up the grooms parents at the airport to addressing thank you notes!
Most showers today do not have the same pomp and circumstance they had in the early 20th century, but the purpose remains the same: gifts! As a bridesmaid, consult the bride on the theme of the party and the guest list, but ask in advance as to not overwhelm the bride.
A quiet evening of tea, crumpets and a game of mind tingling Scrabble is what bachelorette parties are all about. SOME bachelorette parties, however, decide to compete with the bar-hopping, raucous excitement of the notorious bachelor party. Some brides simply want a tame evening of martinis with their closest friends, but the most important thing as a bridesmaid is to remember who you are planning the party for ... you or your friend.
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Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Happy Valentine's Day!
Stomachs Are the Way to Anyone's Heart:
- Bake cookies and cupcakes. Crate & Barrel have great heart shaped cookie cutters for just over $5; with those and Nestle Tollhouse’s pre-made sugar cookie dough you’re not spending a lot of time or money! You and yours (friends included) can decorate the cookies when they finish baking and then enjoy them over a nice glass of wine!
- Use a low open vase or clear glass bowl and fill it with conversation hearts! This will provide a colorful “centerpiece” in addition to tasty (?) snack and conversation starter.
(I saw this recently at a friend’s house and it was the cutest thing!)
Setting the Mood: (wink, wink!)
- All you need are some tea light candles and maybe some red streamers or faux red rose petals! Light the candles and scatter them all throughout the house (or bedroom) and sprinkle faux red rose petals (both available at Michaels & AC Moore) around the tea lights and you have instant romance …
- Music gets any party started, pick something that sets the mood you want. I would recommend Wynton Marsalis for a little romance and a little Cindy Lauper for a Singles Only bash, after all, “Girls, They Wanna Have Fun!”
Entertainment:
- At your singles only party, you can have fun laughing with and at each other playing, “Would You Rather? Love & Sex” (Urban Outfitters).
- Movies are an easy way to go, there are so many to choose from! When Harry Met Sally, Casablanca, Good Fellas… you name it, it’s out there!

- Books are always a nice gift on Valentine’s Day. Try ‘Other People’s Love Letters’, edited by Bill Shapiro or ‘Guess How Much I Love You’, by Sam McBratney (both at Barns & Noble)
The list of things to do together or by yourself is endless, just have fun this Valentine’s Day, after all there are 364 other days to say I Love You.
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Thursday, January 24, 2008
Tips for Planning a Menu
Even though you and yours may be willing to try all different types of food, that does not mean your guests will. When working with your caterer ask for things that the two of you enjoy and have them fill in the blanks with classics that everyone loves! This way all your gusts are happy and get to share another side of the two of you. You can also dedicate a whole course to yourselves, make dessert something that you love but maybe not everyone else will and give the rest of the meal to the guests with traditional items.
2. Save Money on Dry Cleaning
Don’t pick an appetizer or meat that has a sticky, messy sauce on it that has the potential to drip all over your guests clothing!
3. Dress It Up
If you’re going with a buffet, choose food that looks just as good at the end of the evening as it does in the beginning. When planning the menu for a lunch or a dinner, think of the plate as an empty canvas and have your food be the artwork. It is a great touch to “wow” your guests.
4. Plan for Picky Eaters
Guests can have a host of food restrictions, preferences, and allergies. When interviewing caterers, ask for an example of a time they've had to accommodate an unusual circumstance on the fly. Also, be sure the caterer or banquet manager has briefed the wait staff on the menu's ingredients. It is also always nice to ask guests on their reply card to list food allergies or vegetarian requests. .
5. Tasting are a MUST
Always, always … ALWAYS do a tasting! No matter how much you love crab cakes you never know what they put in theirs! You may no enjoy it at all and you would hate to find that out, right along with your guests on wedding day. Go taste everything you like in the proposal and maybe even some stuff you didn't. It is worth every minute of being there.
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